Why do you ignore me?
Posted October 26th, 2009 by limconnyWe had a workout instructors' gathering today, there were few topics to share and we all made a lot of fun by sharing own experience, such a wonderful gathering.
The most interesting topic is about the response of our students, we are helpless of the silence from students over the years, whenever we ask : Are you alright? Silent......Do you have any question? Silent......Do you like the class? Silent.......
All of us are frustrated with the silence, honestly!
Who wants to be ignored huh? It is even worse to a sensitive woman like me, l will think it negative way : Oh may be they don't like me? May be it is too tough for them? Or may be it is too easy for them thus it is stupid to ask this?
But after years of teaching, we have compromised. At the end, our conclusion to this topic is :
This is under the influence of the environment here la, it is very hard to do any remediation as we are not able to fight with the whole environment, so nowadays we train ourselves to give own answers, this way:
We ask : Are you ok?
Students: Silent.....
So we answer: Oh you are ok !
We ask: Any question?
Students : Silent....
So we answer: Oh you all totally understand now ! Good!
Ha, so we make fun to ourselves nowadays....
In fact l have been acting like a clown for many years, trying best to cheer up the class and making a lot of jokes just hoping that the class is more lively, but l am tired after years of trying, and l am learning to be flexible on this lately, instead of changing people's mind, l think l prefer to change mine!
You know, as a principal, l try to smile to everyone that walking in to Zero, but sometimes l am ignored, people stare at me and walk in to class, may be they do not know l am the principal or may be they thought l am abnormal? It is sad to be ignored and l wonder what's wrong to greet back with a smile huh? But nowadays l learn to accept this philosophy, these people have different concept of life and different channel from me, that is it!
And to be ignored by a person l care is absolutely 'hurt', to me, it shows that this person does not care on me, relationship works best only when it is balance, but to obtain a 'balance' is such difficult in life as there is different thinking in every mankind's mind, what to do? Except to accept and adjust ourselves, right?
